Happiness that depends on others approval, on other people’s way of thinking – social media addiction

We are living in an era where we constantly ask for other people’s approval to make us feel better. We seek attention through “likes” and “follows” in our social media account. Today, our happiness depends on how well our facebook, twitter, and instagram is doing. It is no longer based on how well our real life is. Happiness is traditionally based on rewards and feelings you get from your immediate environment – from your surroundings, family, real friends, and local area. Now, happiness and sadness depend on a how well your status in the internet is.

People are constantly begging for likes and followers, they love approval from others. Life now depends on their iphones, tablets, computer, and other gadgets. They shield their selves from real people but openly allow strangers into their lives through the internet. New terms such as “cyber bullying” is introduced and many people are doing awareness campaigns to inform other people about its effect to the so-called victims. They do these things when the real solution is to detach yourself from these social medias. Many people including celebrities beg others through social media to stop bashing them, can they not just delete their accounts or make it private and stop reading these hates? We can easily run from these cyber bullies by closing our accounts. Why can we not focus on real problems like physical bullying, hunger, and other real issues?

Many people based their happiness in social media that when their facebook, twitter, or instagram is not doing well, they feel depressed. They beg others for like and if they do not get it, they despair. There are so many beautiful things in their lives but they failed to notice it because they only see their screens. The new generation is replaced by robot-like creatures who does not know the pleasure of running, appreciating a beautiful sunrise and sunset, and the conversation with a friend in a coffee or tea shop. They are just creatures who are hungry of approvals from others who, in reality, do not care if they die.

Today, the world depends on the internet – happiness, sadness, and all other emotions depends on it. Is there hope for the present generation? Will they forever base their happiness in a small box of wires? Will they keep on basing their life in “make believe characters and lives?”. They feel like the people in the internet is real, when in reality they only show what they want to show but failed to address that their life is as crappy as the one admiring them. When will they look up from their screens and find happiness in their real life? When will they ever detach from the pull of social media that imprisoned them from reality?

I am not saying that we should isolate ourselves from the internet, but limit our connection with it. Do not let the internet be the basis of your life because life is more than the internet.

Happiness that depends on others

“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”

Stacey Charter